Things in poor neighborhoods are done differently than in middle- and upper- class neighborhoods. People that grow up in poor neighborhoods develop behaviors, customs, and beliefs that are different from other neighborhoods because they are part of surviving in the struggle. When they move on up, some of those behaviors, customs, and beliefs are no longer necessary and can even be harmful (e.g. strong reactions to perceived attacks). Others may actually provide an advantage (e.g. living through power outages). Regardless, these changes can cause a sense of estrangement from their childhood and original culture, leading to some resistance. Given all that:

What did you change and what did you keep?

  • Num10ck@lemmy.worldEnglish
    601·
    19 hours ago

    how to avoid appearing like you just escaped the lower classes:

    • stop keeping everything, just in case you might need it
    • stop buying random crap without seeing how it can justify your space/money/time.
    • stop eating garbage. eat consciously, expect you will need to feel great instead of stopping hunger.
    • stop keeping in touch with toxic people just because you might need them someday.
    • stop seeking attention with the way you dress and talk, etc. don’t appear needy. aim for tasteful.
    • preventative maintenance. fix things that are wonky before they fail at a bad time.
    • appear competent and secure, give eye contact, listen.