cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/45204357

Yesterday, I created my account on Lemmy.ml because I want to become mod on !stardewvalley@lemmy.ml. And I posted this comic on !stardewvalley@lemmy.ml It’s SDV game cutscene where Shane a NPC go watch Sports game with you kiss you accidentily but It was part of that event also player kiss Shane(NPC) back. Here’s video for more context. And someone claimed it have SA(Sexual Assualt) From Hexbear Ofcourse. So, I should delete it. I said it was a part of game cutscene. And If main player doesn’t love the Shane(NPC) then they don’t need to complete this event. And Just as a sarcasm I added Yeah we shoule delete this entire community because this game is Woke like Woke Detector Steam Group said. That user think I am some anti-woke dickhead something like that IDK. And tell me to Kill My Self. What I do now? I wanted on become mod on .ml because community was already well established. I message dessaline but I am sure he will not unbanned me. :(

Did I really did something wrong? I don’t know If I really did something wrong.

Link for that comic if embed doesn’t work.

Comic

Create one lemm.ee !stardewvalley@lemm.ee

  • m-p{3}@lemmy.ca
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    12 days ago

    One of the reason why our instance defederated from Hexbear. They’re not there to discuss in good faith, they’re there to incite and provoke, then they start crying if you reply back to their nonsense.

    They’re not worth interacting with.

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      12 days ago

      To be fair I’ve had good discussions with a few of them, so I can’t generalise.

      But… yeah, some of them don’t quite realise that the childish behaviour that would be OK in HB is despised elsewhere, and that it’s the the major reason why their instance gets defederated so bloody often - it is not red scare, it’s “get the children back to the kindergarten so the adults can talk”.

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        11 days ago

        Hexbear has been far more level-headed than Lemmy.world in my experience, it’s definitely red scare. Lemmy.world admins admitted as much on their end.

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                11 days ago

                Sure. In general, whether someone will have a better time on .world or on Hexbear is largely dictated on if they are a Marxist or not. I am very openly a Marxist, the rest follows naturally.

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                  11 days ago

                  if I weren’t such a charitable bastard i’d be tempted to say that sounds one-note. good for us I am modest and magnanimous and would never say such an uncharitable thing.

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          11 days ago

          Dunno, but seeing you taking part in this and encouraging bad behaviour…

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            11 days ago

            I agreed with the message, not the tone nor how it was delivered. You can see me elaborate in my own words on that thread.

            If you have a problem with what I say, engage it directly.

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              11 days ago

              Thank for your honnest reply. I consider you are encouraging them. If you disagree with the tone, can you tell OP to edit his message and remove insult ? So we can aknowledge it as proof of good faith.

              Thank

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                  11 days ago

                  They are all breaking the rule, but i asked our modo team to let this post since i wanted to try talking with you all.

                  Otherwise, you would never change, neither them.

                  My main point is that you shouldn’t encourage people to do that because they will continu.

                  For example, when you are in a group that insult lonely people. There is a social mechanic, the harasser need supporters. It gives a sense of being in a group and loved. If we remove the supporter, then the harasser would have less reason to continue to do so, don’t you think ?

                  That’s why i asked you to talk to them because i also defend Hexbear, in my own way.

                  I believe you can have a positive change on them since they will be more willing to listen you. I believe you are the right person, you can take a more active role.

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                    11 days ago

                    That’s why I call out my comrades from time to time. I don’t think the right way to do that is to strong-arm people into doing so.

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          11 days ago

          Hexbear has been far more level-headed than Lemmy.world in my experience

          This whole thread proves that this is false.

          And, granted, I’m partially at fault here - since I was kind of expecting them to behave like 11yo kids once the teacher is gone, and having some fun at their expense - but note how they’re in an otherwise serious discussion and doing nothing but shitposting.

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          11 days ago

          Every time I interacted there, I got pile-dived. They’re not level-headed at all most of the time. If one goes against the accepted positions, especially in things like “left unity” or North Korea, it’s all baiting and insults until most people are eventually banned as “liberals” at best for reacting to it.

          Sure there’s a few mature people in it, but there’s way too many tankies who take being in hexbear as an excuse to be massive assholes as often as possible.

          I think l.w. is also not perfect either as it’s pretty aggressively centrist, but at least it doesn’t feel like a kindergarden most of the time.

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            11 days ago

            Without knowing what got you dog-piled, you say it yourself, you broke the anti-sectarian rule. I do think that expecting to be treated with kindness when breaking instance rules directly is a bit of a tall order, especially if you use the term “tankie,” which these days just means “Marxist.”

            As a Marxist, I’ve never had a problem on Hexbear, but many problems on Lemmy.world. I know you’re not a Marxist, but generally Anarchists are also treated well. The only time it doesn’t work out is if you have an anti-Anarchist Marxist or an anti-Marxist Anarchist, in my experience, and it seems lije you’re more of the latter than not.

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              11 days ago

              Without knowing what got you dog-piled, you say it yourself, you broke the anti-sectarian rule. I do think that expecting to be treated with kindness when breaking instance rules directly is a bit of a tall order,

              Actually no. I broke hexbear’s “no-sectarianism” rule in my own instance’s anarchism comm and got dogpiled there. Since then, I’ve been getting dogpiled whenever I commented in hexbear even though I carefully strayed away from any “sectarianism”. But once one’s labeled as a “wrecker” elsewhere, it doesn’t matter if you’re doing any rule breaking or not in hexbear.

              especially if you use the term “tankie,” which these days just means “Marxist.”

              I use tankie in the original meaning. MLs who support brutal authoritarian suppressions of dissent.

              The only time it doesn’t work out is if you have an anti-Anarchist Marxist or an anti-Marxist Anarchist, in my experience, and it seems lije you’re more of the latter than not.

              I’m not actually anti-Marxist. In fact we still have hexbear federated because I think most marxist have generally the right takes albeit terrible praxis, so it’s good to have more people pulling towards the left in discussions. I am however very anti-imperialist and anti-authoritarian and I believe “left-unity” with MLs and Anarchists doesn’t work, at best. The latter part is naturally what made me a persona-non-grata in hexbear eyes.

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                  11 days ago

                  Would it make me understand why hexbears are dogpiling anarchists who reject “left-unity”?

                  And, for what it’s worth, Hexbear seems to be making ML/Anarchist unity work.

                  For some definitions of “work”, maybe. From my perspective it “works” the same way “unity” works in /r/politicalcompassmemes.

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                    11 days ago

                    Would it make me understand why hexbears are dogpiling anarchists who reject “left-unity”?

                    I believe it would help, yes. Hexbear’s Anarchists are generally supportive of AES because they agree with Lenin’s analysis of Imperialism, though I don’t claim to speak for all of them. Like I said, you don’t have to agree with Lenin here, I just think your personal understanding of Hexbear and Marxism-Leninism in general, and thus your ability to “deal” or interact with them, would be much better if you read that specific work.

                    That being said, obviously I don’t expect you to read an entire book just to understand political viewpoints you disagree with, I just wanted to point it out to you in case it hadn’t been already.

                    For some definitions of “work”, maybe. From my perspective it “works” the same way “unity” works in /r/politicalcompassmemes.

                    As someone who, back in my ultraleft liberal days (before I actually started reading theory and taking it seriously), participated in r/politicalcompassmemes, it’s entirely different IMO. I think a good exercise if you want to see what Hexbear actually functions like is to scroll the News Megathread and see some of the conversations had there.

                    Again, though, you don’t have to do any of this. I just think that if you for some reason decided to make “understanding Hexbear’s Anarchists” a goal, then this is the quickest way to do so.

                    If you do decide to read Imperialism, you can DM me if you have any questions.