So I’m not 100% sure this is the right sub for this but I couldn’t really find another sort of mod abuse sub that had actual users. I recognize that I am most certainly an asshole in this situation, but I got banned Fedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com for a misogynistic comment I left on a completely different sub.
imogen_underscore in that same thread made multiple death threats against me and has only received a 7 day ban. So I want to be clear here that in their eyes a misogynistic comment left on an entirely different sub is WORSE than death threats left in your own sub?
Are you of the opinion that the pronouns are relevant to the length of their (plural their mind you, OP and imogen_underscore) bans or that the discussion here will somehow change depending on their gender?
That’s moving the goalposts by quite a lot.
I would say it is moving the goalposts to the topic at hand, but let’s agree to disagree.
I think a person’s pronouns are always relevant when talking about the person at hand, when they are known. It’s really as simple as that. Anything less, and you are misgendering that person.
And in general I would consider “they” to be “not gendering that person” without adding any negative or positive values to it.
I understand that it isn’t all that simple when it comes to lgbtq and those who are actively misgendering someone as a refusal to accept their gender. Give those fuckers hell, they deserve it, but if it’s possible that someone is using it as I consider it to be used then give them the benefit of the doubt. It’ll make the world seem a bit brighter if nothing else.
We’re not all hateful bastards, some of us just don’t read usernames and are lucky enough to not have to think about pronouns and gender. Thanks for making me think a bit more about it this evening.