The day my mother died my aunt came into the funeral house yelling that I had betrayed her because in the obituary I added my fiancee and her parents. Thing is, she doesn’t like my fiancee (foreigner), classic racism and elitism stuff. My mom was her last sister alive (two brothers also deceased). Anyway I was not mad I told her calmly that she was mad, I wasn’t, and if she had a problem it was on her not me.
That night her daughter gave me a lecture about how distant I was with family and blah blah blah, it ended with me pointing out that on my mom’s side during the last three months of her life only her two best friends were with me and that neither her nor her only alive sister were with me, or her, until she was already sedated. I left, friends invited me to dinner and I decided that is she wanted to be back at my life she would need to go above and beyond apologizing not because of what happened to me but because they disrespected my mom’s and they can’t backtrack on that.
My fiancee is Filipina, I am Spanish. They have a problem with that, my mom didn’t have a problem (she even gave me the ring to ask her to marry me, which I did three months after my mom died). I am marrying her on Thursday.
I looked up to them a lot before all this, and I didn’t need them to be with me when my mom was dying, her friends (one is like an older sister and the other is like another mom to me) where more than what I, or her, could have asked for and the neighbors were very worried about us and that’s a testament to who my mom was, again the issue was and is on hers I defended my mom, my fiancee and her parents (two woman, not married, not lesbian, it’s complicated.
They are a hateful bunch because they refuse to know and learn.
My dad’s family is totally the opposite and they are, in theory, “less educated”. Not all my mother family is like that though, the widow of her younger brother is very happy for us too.
So in short, I defended what I loved and I know I would take my fiancee over them any day of any week.
It’s going fine.
The day my mother died my aunt came into the funeral house yelling that I had betrayed her because in the obituary I added my fiancee and her parents. Thing is, she doesn’t like my fiancee (foreigner), classic racism and elitism stuff. My mom was her last sister alive (two brothers also deceased). Anyway I was not mad I told her calmly that she was mad, I wasn’t, and if she had a problem it was on her not me.
That night her daughter gave me a lecture about how distant I was with family and blah blah blah, it ended with me pointing out that on my mom’s side during the last three months of her life only her two best friends were with me and that neither her nor her only alive sister were with me, or her, until she was already sedated. I left, friends invited me to dinner and I decided that is she wanted to be back at my life she would need to go above and beyond apologizing not because of what happened to me but because they disrespected my mom’s and they can’t backtrack on that.
My fiancee is Filipina, I am Spanish. They have a problem with that, my mom didn’t have a problem (she even gave me the ring to ask her to marry me, which I did three months after my mom died). I am marrying her on Thursday.
I looked up to them a lot before all this, and I didn’t need them to be with me when my mom was dying, her friends (one is like an older sister and the other is like another mom to me) where more than what I, or her, could have asked for and the neighbors were very worried about us and that’s a testament to who my mom was, again the issue was and is on hers I defended my mom, my fiancee and her parents (two woman, not married, not lesbian, it’s complicated.
They are a hateful bunch because they refuse to know and learn.
My dad’s family is totally the opposite and they are, in theory, “less educated”. Not all my mother family is like that though, the widow of her younger brother is very happy for us too.
So in short, I defended what I loved and I know I would take my fiancee over them any day of any week.
A great basis for a relationship. All the best for your marriage and have a great wedding!