My wife did it about eightish years ago with her narcissistic, controlling, lying father, and her life has become much better because of it. He’s still sometimes throwing tantrums or trying to manipulate her (they still sometimes meet at family functions, of it can’t be avoided), but the mere fact that he doesn’t know our address has made her SO much more relaxed and happy than she’s been before. Bonus is that it makes him livid, because he can’t control her.
Her sister has cut the ties with him much more recently, and has seen the same effects on her mental health, but she’s also struggling more with it, because she grew up with him (instead of their mother, as has my wife) and because he knows where they live and it enables him to try and manipulate her into returning.
From what I’ve seen, it does take initial and continued strength to cut the ties, but it seems very much worth it in the long run. (Disclaimer: YMMV)
My wife did it about eightish years ago with her narcissistic, controlling, lying father, and her life has become much better because of it. He’s still sometimes throwing tantrums or trying to manipulate her (they still sometimes meet at family functions, of it can’t be avoided), but the mere fact that he doesn’t know our address has made her SO much more relaxed and happy than she’s been before. Bonus is that it makes him livid, because he can’t control her.
Her sister has cut the ties with him much more recently, and has seen the same effects on her mental health, but she’s also struggling more with it, because she grew up with him (instead of their mother, as has my wife) and because he knows where they live and it enables him to try and manipulate her into returning.
From what I’ve seen, it does take initial and continued strength to cut the ties, but it seems very much worth it in the long run. (Disclaimer: YMMV)