I’ve read the whole threads. I am interested in a brief, short summary of what you have automated. If I’ve read correctly, you hate going to the grocery, so this is automated? How? What else is automated?

My three essential selfhosted services are :

• an XMPP server
• a CalDAV server
• a bookmark manager (Linkding)

Polyamourous relations are a thing. If your daugther is okay with it and happy, that’s all what matters.

Why is it a big deal ? Many guys have relations with multiple women at the same time but just hide it. I’d rather live in a relation where the exclusivity/polyamourous thing is discussed before. This can’t be a good judgement criteria, since if he was a cheater, your husband would see a loyal, monogamous boy and would appreciate him more but, in secret, the daughter’s boyfriend would be a complete bastard. 🤷