Never loan anyone anything unless you’re willing to give it to them, because that could well turn out to be exactly what you’re doing.
ETA another one that just came to me, that I’ve always liked because it’s a witty turn of phrase in addition to being useful:
If you’re doing something that leads you to wonder if you should have some safety gear (gloves, particle mask, hearing protection, etc.), then the answer is “Yes.”
I’ve been posting on internet forums for almost 30 years now. It’s just a thing I like doing.
I’m here now because it’s the best place I know of at the moment.
Oog - my little brother.
He’s a walking stereotype of a tech libertarian (which is to say, a shallow, bigoted, reactionary, right-wing IT guy who for some inexplicablec reason seems to think that all that’s necessary to count as “libertarian” is to rail against “the woke mob.”)
The first time I heard the term “mansplaining,” I knew exactly what it meant, because it’s his customary mode of communication. I already know that by about the third time I hear him say, " Well, what you have to understand is that…" I’m going to have to leave the room.
He likely won’t bring up politics directly - not surprisingly, he’s generally ignorant of both the philosophical side of it and the practical side of it. Instead, he’ll bloviate about whatever the right-wing/tech media bubble is bloviating about, so essentially political issues without the complication of political context.
It’s invariably awful, and it’s always a matter not of if but merely of when I’m going to have to leave the room because the only alternative is going to be a messy verbal explosion. And I presume it’s going to be worse than ever this year, since he’ll undoubtedly want to mansplain the mindless dogma he’s been fed about Trump and Musk and Ukraine and tariffs and immigrants and trans athletes and so on…
All I know is that Kagi triggered my scam alarms from the start, and moving into the browser market just made them ring even louder.
I think you have forums confused with microblogs.
I presume I’m supposed to care, but I dont, and I don’t know why anyone would.
I recommend just signing up for another instance or five.
IMO, there’s really no reason to “move” on Lemmy. If you see an instance that looks interesting, sign up for it. Spend some time there and poke around and see how it’s different (they’re all at least subtly different, since they all have different sets of federated instances and subscribed communities). If you see another one that interests you, sign up for it too. Keep going like that and eventually you’ll find yourself settling into one or maybe a few not because you took a guess or followed someone else’s recommendation, but because they simply turned out to be the ones you liked best.
I have no idea how many instances I’ve signed up for over the last couple of years - a couple of dozen at least. Of those, I generally have three or four that I use the most, though the specific ones have changed, as some of my earlier favorites have gone notably downhill or have shut down and new favorites have arisen.
All that said, overall I’ve been most satisfied with this account - Sopuli.xyz. I also spend a fair amount of time on dbzer0, lemm.ee and Fedia.io (which is notable because it’s not Lemmy, but mbin, which is an entirely different piece of software that offers all the same basic functionality of Lemmy, but is formatted a bit differently, and in many ways is actually better than Lemmy). I have a .world account, and in fact it’s my oldest account, but I find myself using it less all the time.