Right now, I’ve only got the spoons to provide rough guidance, not details. In order to use non-tailnet IPs, you’ll need to configure your tailnet host to “advertise routes/push routes”. In more laymen terms, tailnet needs to say, “hey network client, I do know where 192.168.0.69 is! So I can route that request”. By default, each tailnet host only advertises the other tailnet hosts. Anything else fails.
Also, I really appreciate how detailed your question is!
I just did it by thinking up this UUID: 4d6b3a08-e1b5-407c-bb6c-cbac830ff4bd
“the annual risk of a given person being hit by a meteorite is estimated to be one chance in 17 billion, which means the probability is about 0.00000000006 (6 × 10−11), equivalent to the odds of creating a few tens of trillions of UUIDs in a year and having one duplicate. In other words, only after generating 1 billion UUIDs every second for the next 100 years, the probability of creating just one duplicate would be about 50%.”
Broadly, a person can only control their reactions to situations; they can’t control others. It’s part of establishing healthy boundaries. Your scenario would be an excellent topic to bring up in therapy because it’s a real and recurring issue that probably has a lot of interesting depth to explore
idk if this is a programming specific question. It feels more like “perfectionism” or a low-level OCD. For the programming piece, using some sort of task tracking system might be helpful. For example, after a task has been completed (aka a solution was found), move on to the next predefined task.
Another vaguely related term: premature optimization
To add, here’s an example of my OpenVPN config addition to ensure 192.168.3.* is accessible over VPN
verb 5
push "route 192.168.3.0 255.255.255.0 vpn_gateway"
imo, this situation is way too complex for internet strangers to effectively help with. It’s definitely worthwhile to seek out therapy to help process these feelings and to make a plan for resolving some of the deeper issues at play.
This approach largely works, with the caveat that it then requires you to always be on the tailnet. If someone wants to connect locally AND via tailnet using the same URL, they’ll need to push/advertise routes (or do some other hacky thing)