macrocarpa

Per some of the comments above - add urgency, being in / not being in control, exertion are all part of it.

Finishing a half marathon

Attending a concert with 20k other people and singing one of my favourite songs at the top of my lungs

The 30 to 40 seconds after my first experience scuba diving

Surfing, believe it or not. - the feeling of being picked up and pushed forward at the same time, then being in control / out of control and elated at the same time

Dancing in darkness to uplifting music, sometimes even exercising in the dark

Riding downhill trails in the dark (wirh headlight of course)

Plastic straws, clothes pegs, bottle caps, bottle rings.

https://shegoes.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/Satin-Bower-Bird-Nest.jpg

It’s a bower bird performance centre. Quite literally. They make an area where they can perform for a mate.

They like the colour blue so collect heaps of blue things and decorate their bower with them.

This one has got a bunch of milk bottle caps, milk bottle cap rings, blue plastic straws and what look like pegs.

It sounds funny till you think about stuff that humans do for exactly the same reason (to be “interesting” to a prospective partner)

Bingo. I think that’s the key to it - if you do it with the intent of getting something from someone, people will work that out pretty quickly and resent it. It comes over as being…greasy.

If it’s done from the perspective of having genuine interest, care and empathy it makes it easier to work as a group.

Yep. There’s people that want to keep distance at work and don’t appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.

Not the most manipulative but

Keep a log of the birthdays, hobbies and names of spouses and children of colleagues, managers, team members and customers.

I learnt this from a guy who did executive search. People remember you, when you remember what is important to them.

When I’ve lead teams it’s one of the first things I find out - note down when someone says “yeah Gary that’s my hubby, he’s super into gaming”

• Gary (husband.)
• likes gaming

When you’re a manager, your teams families, partners and friends know your name. Reciprocating that - learning who is important to them - is really important.

The rise of feminism has seen the steady devaluation of the contribution of men in those areas of society where they should be most active. Rather than celebrate and recognise what’s right, the focus is on attacking what’s wrong.

The majority of men are lonely, isolated and uncared for. Many feel unvalued, unsafe and vulnerable. There is less community support for men than there has been in the past, less institutional support, and a continued decline in the tolerance of men being in shared places. The minimisation of value in societal roles is yet another way that men are cut off.

This seems to escape the vision of feminism. There is always claim of ideological alignment, where the empowerment of women directly benefits men, but when it comes to any form of concrete action that helps men that need help, or celebrates men that contribute - it’s nowhere to be seen.

Men kill themselves. They kill themselves. In their thousands. Leaving cratered families, trauma, guilt from the survivors, many of whom are female. Because they feel valueless, helpless and can’t see a purpose to going on.

Accountability goes both ways. In demanding support from men, feminism must support men.