But there’s also a certain expectation of “flamboyance” from the gay community, or you’re “not gay enough” and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.
On top of the poor history of the word, I just don’t want to be associated with colourfulness and energy because that’s simply not who I am. People from outside looking into LGBTQ+ assume that that’s who gay men need to be because of media representation… It makes me tired.
Agreed!
But there’s also a certain expectation of “flamboyance” from the gay community, or you’re “not gay enough” and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.
On top of the poor history of the word, I just don’t want to be associated with colourfulness and energy because that’s simply not who I am. People from outside looking into LGBTQ+ assume that that’s who gay men need to be because of media representation… It makes me tired.