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Cake day: September 9th, 2023

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  • Ok who says that a straight male should be attracted to female gender? Sexual attraction is physical (to most people) so a straight male od attracted to people with female primary (vulva) and secondary (boobs, ass, etc…) sexual characteristics. Just because a biological male with male sexual organs and a male-presenting body identifies as female, and a straight male ks not attracted to her it’s not disrespectful, fetishizing, transphobe, “super straight”, it’s just straight. In the same way as a generally straight man will likely not be attracted to a female transgender person who did hormome therapy and looks like a female but didn’t do the surgigal operation to transform her male genitalia in female genitalia, as straight male will probably not be attracted to a “woman with a penis” and that’s perfectly ok






  • Songs of the Gorilla Nation. It’s supposed to be a book about the autism of the author, but it’s just a weird love letter to the entire Gorilla population, described as perfect creatures every human should aspire to be, it’s pretty much like that simpson shimpanzee parody episode, except more sad.

    There is very little content about autism, but you can tell there is a lot of resentment towards neurotipicals (who she calls neuromutilated) and a lot of toxic autism pride. I believe the author has a lot of unresolved trauma that she coped with cultivating resentment and obsessing over gorillas.

    Didn’t learn much about autism nor gorillas, a pretty lame book overall.





  • When I was very young (probably too much to be on the internet) I got onw of those viruses that lock your pc and ask for a payment because the pc is seized by the authority or some shit. Of course I believed it so I mustered the courage to tell my parent. Was very relieved when they told me it was a scam and 3 seconds of googling tols me how to remove the virus (it was just an autostart program).

    When I changed electricity operator I got called telling from the operator I switched to and gave my bank coordinates to change the contract. Took a while to figure out maybe it was not them. How they found out I just switched to that particular operator they were impersonating is outiside of my understanding.

    My grandma got a call saying it was “one of her child” she made the mistake to tell them the name of her child so they pretended to be one. She might have been old, but she was smart enough to hung up and call my uncle and of course he had no accident, but coincidentallt it was the only day in the week he was not with her. Did they know? Who knows


  • As a casual js user (I build some static sites for fun and personal use), I am under the impression that JavaScript “sucks” mostly because some things really make it look like JavaScript was invented as a quick scripting tool rather than the backbone of the WWW.

    I’ll bring an example that maybe helps me learning someting. Why in javasctipt “1” == 1? I know the === operator exists, but why isn’t the default behaviour the safer one? Especially when the mantra is “don’t trust the user”.

    Like, I get, I am a strongly-typed guy, but I see why weakly-type languges exists, but this feel frankly moronic, and all the answers I’ve seen are " because that’s how it is". That’s just copium.

    Also when I tried to compile a single Cordova app to play around I needed some 5GB of npm modules that totalled ~200k files! Is that how modern app development is like?

    Also, the particular webpage OP linked might be a little extreme, but modern software does suck ass, and is not user-friendly nor efficient. Just look at mobile communication apps, like Teams. The user experience is terrible, the UI is unrespive, the battery drain is crazy and it takes 800MB of space. Is this because it’s an electron app, or because it’s made by incompetent programmers? I don’t know, but we made incredible hardware improvements in personal computing, new software should be even more efficient and use them better, not get more and more bloaty to have the same experience on older and newer hardware









  • I understand how you feel. The first step to reduce the frustration is to try and give it less importance: as you said yourself, it’s not falling in love, it’s just infatuation. Your brain is confusing attractiveness to another person (physical or romantic) for a deep connection that doesn’t come at first sight (despite what movies and tv would make you believe) but develops in time.

    You will be attracted to a lot of people in your life (assuming you’re not aromantic or asexual) and, with time, you’ll realize if you went deeper in many of these situation, the attraction would disappear, because the shallow opinion you have of a person you are not dating is very difficult to get right, and usually filtered positively by your monkey brain that just wants to formicate.

    Of course trying and deepening these attractions would help you realizing this, which might not be easy if you have difficult approaching other people, but try and reflect on similar situations in the past and think about them cold-hearted: to how many people are you still infatuated? Don’t you see now the “bad things” that you brain was hiding and that don’t make you two really compatible?

    Eventually it just becomes a nuisance. I don’t know if you can change it, but you can accept it and it will bother you less if you understand the mechanism behind it.

    Maybe you just feel affection-starved and in these situations it’s easy to attach to ideas of relationships rather than real ones. Nothing weird of course, everybody do it is some way or another. It’s a combination of social brain and (according to your comnents) low self-esteem.

    Of course these are my 2 cents according to personal experience, a therapist would you help you more with that.