If it was CS or drums it would’ve been a breeze. Makeup, Asian dramas, K-Pop, anime, thrifting, pop music, painting, knitting, reading, cooking, baking, learning dance choreographies, video games such as The Sims, Stardew Valley, Animal Crossing, Minecraft, Roblox, Slime Rancher and mobile games such as Choices & Romance Club, etc. things like that. He’s very close with him mom cause they have a lot in common.
What do I like? Hm, I like playing soccer, I like working out at the gym, I like going fishing, camping and hunting, I like woodwork and tinkering around the house, I like yard work and gardening, I like riding my bike and motorcycle, hiking, etc. well, my wife enjoys doing any activity as long as we’re together, my son isn’t like that.
I hear so many opportunities in there. He likes painting, you like woodworking, make wood panels to paint, and design the ideas together—you could even paint them while camping and drawing inspiration from what you see. You like gardening, he likes cooking, collaborate on home grown meals together. Hell, you can even design an elaborate garden in the Sims.
There are opportunities to step into each others world and see what fits, but you have to step into his just as much as he steps into yours.
First of all, you actually know what your son is into and want to connect with him which is awesome. That makes you a good dad right away.
He likes cooking and you like outdoorsy stuff, so BBQ sounds like a good overlap.
Anime is a wide enough genre that it has options for you. Blue Lock is a currently popular show about soccer players. That might be something you both could watch. Also, just watch Cowboy Bebop with him. Everyone likes Cowboy Bebop.
For games, Stardew Valley has lots of fishing, foraging, and dungeon delving elements that you would probably enjoy if you game at all. (You might also see if your son just wants to take walks in the woods since it’s such a pastoral game that might appeal) Minecraft is something everyone can enjoy. It’s digital Legos more or less.
Personally I find knitting oddly enjoyable in a lot of the same ways as woodworking. You are making something tangible which is great. It takes a lot of patience and persistence. You are working with a medium that doesn’t always cooperate the way you want but that’s part of the challenge.
Just choose any of these things and participate with him. You could take him to a bookstore or library if he likes reading. Learn to cook steaks together (or teach him). Play Minecraft together. Have him show you how to knit (or take him to the store for knitting supplies). Watch YouTube tutorials on something he likes.
I get it, I have a kiddo that is super into in ground sprinkler systems and space heaters. Sometimes it is hard to find a way to participate.
CS as in computer science? Go minecraft. Learn how to play with him. Then learn about redstone. Then you can show him amazing things you can do in minecraft with programming.
The anime fruits basket starts off with the daughter living in a tent in the forest, estranged from her family. Maybe you can move your son into a tent and he will get the irony.
Cooking and outdoor BBQ seems to be a match, but even so, even talking about hobbies can be nice. Just ask him about how it’s going what bands he likes, and see if you can take him to a concert or get him an album for example. He’ll enjoy the concert, you’ll be there for the time spent together. Or the painting-woodworking thing someone said.
I think the trick is to approach it from an angle of “I want to participate in your hobby with you”, and see what you can bring to it, and that might get him hooked on reciprocating. Trying to get him to go first with doing the same might more likely result in disinterest.
You just have to ask about stuff. If they have a close relationship with their mom and you’re good at bonding with her then it should be very similar.
Relationships can be like a workout where it takes a bit of effort and energy but after a while it’ll get easier. At least that’s how it is with coworkers for me. I talk and ask questions and try to throw a joke in there and see what sticks, after a while we’re regular ol buds
If it was CS or drums it would’ve been a breeze. Makeup, Asian dramas, K-Pop, anime, thrifting, pop music, painting, knitting, reading, cooking, baking, learning dance choreographies, video games such as The Sims, Stardew Valley, Animal Crossing, Minecraft, Roblox, Slime Rancher and mobile games such as Choices & Romance Club, etc. things like that. He’s very close with him mom cause they have a lot in common.
your son sounds badass, read some shoujo and meet tom nook while spinning brat
You’re telling me you can’t appreciate art, eating food your son has made, or playing a simple game like the Sims or Minecraft? What do you like then?
And if he’s like his mother, how do you get along with her?
What do I like? Hm, I like playing soccer, I like working out at the gym, I like going fishing, camping and hunting, I like woodwork and tinkering around the house, I like yard work and gardening, I like riding my bike and motorcycle, hiking, etc. well, my wife enjoys doing any activity as long as we’re together, my son isn’t like that.
I hear so many opportunities in there. He likes painting, you like woodworking, make wood panels to paint, and design the ideas together—you could even paint them while camping and drawing inspiration from what you see. You like gardening, he likes cooking, collaborate on home grown meals together. Hell, you can even design an elaborate garden in the Sims.
There are opportunities to step into each others world and see what fits, but you have to step into his just as much as he steps into yours.
Blue lock is a popular soccer anime out now. And for gardening there is Chainsaw man
The boxing anime Hajime no Ippo perhaps?
Name an anime that builds hype better than Ippo.
Difficulty: Impossible
First of all, you actually know what your son is into and want to connect with him which is awesome. That makes you a good dad right away.
He likes cooking and you like outdoorsy stuff, so BBQ sounds like a good overlap.
Anime is a wide enough genre that it has options for you. Blue Lock is a currently popular show about soccer players. That might be something you both could watch. Also, just watch Cowboy Bebop with him. Everyone likes Cowboy Bebop.
For games, Stardew Valley has lots of fishing, foraging, and dungeon delving elements that you would probably enjoy if you game at all. (You might also see if your son just wants to take walks in the woods since it’s such a pastoral game that might appeal) Minecraft is something everyone can enjoy. It’s digital Legos more or less.
Personally I find knitting oddly enjoyable in a lot of the same ways as woodworking. You are making something tangible which is great. It takes a lot of patience and persistence. You are working with a medium that doesn’t always cooperate the way you want but that’s part of the challenge.
I can see why you made this post. What a peculiar set of interests. Could probably find some crafts to do with him.
peculiar? those are all very common interests, just stereotypically feminine
I’d be saying the same if OP’s son was his daughter. I’d never have guessed them.
Just choose any of these things and participate with him. You could take him to a bookstore or library if he likes reading. Learn to cook steaks together (or teach him). Play Minecraft together. Have him show you how to knit (or take him to the store for knitting supplies). Watch YouTube tutorials on something he likes.
I get it, I have a kiddo that is super into in ground sprinkler systems and space heaters. Sometimes it is hard to find a way to participate.
CS as in computer science? Go minecraft. Learn how to play with him. Then learn about redstone. Then you can show him amazing things you can do in minecraft with programming.
The anime fruits basket starts off with the daughter living in a tent in the forest, estranged from her family. Maybe you can move your son into a tent and he will get the irony.
Cooking and outdoor BBQ seems to be a match, but even so, even talking about hobbies can be nice. Just ask him about how it’s going what bands he likes, and see if you can take him to a concert or get him an album for example. He’ll enjoy the concert, you’ll be there for the time spent together. Or the painting-woodworking thing someone said.
I think the trick is to approach it from an angle of “I want to participate in your hobby with you”, and see what you can bring to it, and that might get him hooked on reciprocating. Trying to get him to go first with doing the same might more likely result in disinterest.
You just have to ask about stuff. If they have a close relationship with their mom and you’re good at bonding with her then it should be very similar.
Relationships can be like a workout where it takes a bit of effort and energy but after a while it’ll get easier. At least that’s how it is with coworkers for me. I talk and ask questions and try to throw a joke in there and see what sticks, after a while we’re regular ol buds