So I’m not 100% sure this is the right sub for this but I couldn’t really find another sort of mod abuse sub that had actual users. I recognize that I am most certainly an asshole in this situation, but I got banned Fedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com for a misogynistic comment I left on a completely different sub.

imogen_underscore in that same thread made multiple death threats against me and has only received a 7 day ban. So I want to be clear here that in their eyes a misogynistic comment left on an entirely different sub is WORSE than death threats left in your own sub?

  • flamingos-cant@feddit.ukEnglish
    311·
    2 days ago

    This is the the death threat, btw:

    bro I’m literally putting a curse on you rn. you’re going to die soon

    Damn, I wonder why misogyny got a longer ban than that. /s

    • MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zipOP
      25·
      2 days ago

      That was just one of them. They had one or two other ones. One was hoping I got hit by a bus and the other was suffocating I think? I might have that one mixed up for something else.

      • flamingos-cant@feddit.ukEnglish
        151·
        2 days ago

        So she did, I’ll admit I missed those ones. Still, you have this still up on you account, undeleted, so I’d say YDI:

        And I would feel fairly confident that the commenter was a woman because attacking someones personality (that they don’t know at all) is typically done by women. If they don’t like something you said they tend to tell you that you have a crap personality or a tiny dick.

            • MoreFPSmorebetter@lemmy.zipOP
              17·
              2 days ago

              Please point to where in that comment I attacked their personality? I said they were probably a woman based on them saying something else in anothe comment. That’s it.

              • flamingos-cant@feddit.ukEnglish
                81·
                2 days ago

                Oh, so when you make baseless assumptions about people it’s just you rationally arriving at a conclusion from context, but when someone else says your personality sucks based from your diatribe about women and dating, it must be because they’re an irrational, emotional wöman.

            • anamethatisnt@sopuli.xyz
              92·
              2 days ago

              Chill out, it can also be used when gender is irrelevant.

              Singular they has become the pronoun of choice to replace he and she in cases where the gender of the antecedent – the word the pronoun refers to – is unknown, irrelevant, or nonbinary, or where gender needs to be concealed. It’s the word we use for sentences like Everyone loves his mother.

              • Heyting@lemmy.ml
                43·
                1 day ago

                Transphobic people regularly use they/them for binary trans people to avoid using their actual pronouns. If you know someone’s pronouns be respectful and use them.

                • anamethatisnt@sopuli.xyz
                  3·
                  2 days ago

                  Are you of the opinion that the pronouns are relevant to the length of their (plural their mind you, OP and imogen_underscore) bans or that the discussion here will somehow change depending on their gender?

                • Cephalotrocity@biglemmowski.winEnglish
                  27·
                  2 days ago

                  This BS is one of the reasons why the left are getting their asses handed to them like fucking everywhere. ‘They’ as a neutral pronoun is used as a fallback when nobody cares to point out the precise gender. You can’t win for losing. Refer to someone’s gender during normal conversation? Sexist. Speaking in a way that doesn’t call out someone’s gender because it is unimportant for the issues being discussed? Believe it or not: sexist? Or what not sexist enough? What is even the problem?

                  You’ve completely derailed the conversation and soured everyone to your cause(s). GG.