24 M at a 3‑way fork for my life:
① Seattle/Portland SWE job,
② unfunded CS PhD (live with in‑laws),
③ $90 k Columbia BME master’s.
Which of these should I do?
Stats:
Me:
24 M, fresh BS CS (+ physics minor, 4.45 GPA, undergraduate research internships, swift student challenge winner, US citizen)
Spouse:
27 M, tech lead remote, $210 k comp, recession resistant job, very smart. But is not yet a citizen, temporary protective status from Syria, been in US since he was 13, scary times but ignoring it.
Current debt: 60 k @ 14 % (2k / mo) (Consolidated credit card debt)
Accepted programs:
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PhD CS @ UCCS (3-4yrs, 20k per year est)
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MS Bio Medical Engineering @ Columbia (18 mo, $90 k tuition) (Have two weeks to accept/decline)
We like the PNW, the humidity and rain, and culture have been so nice(at ABnB right now). I could maybe get a tech job at about 100k, but slightly concerned with this economy, love research, my dream job would be R&D engineering job in the long term, but often requires masters/PhD.
Or maybe I pay money and network with rich people and create a start up at Columbia, or maybe I should start working now in case my spouse gets deported and we need to do something(sorta in denial about this option for now).
Or maybe we live in big house with my spouses parents (adoptive US citizens) in the country, like we have for 5 years now, but the 40 minute commute for UCCS PhD and isolation in Colorado Springs is something my partner, and to some extent I, want to leave. (Very loving and supportive, very grateful for them but we want to be adults and decide things like what’s for dinner for ourselves).
Or maybe I’m young and dumb and lack perspective and we should stay there until we pay down debt, but maybe moving is the jolt we need to start budgeting properly.
(Consolidated credit card debt is going down from 80k, just that partner used to have slightly excessive lifestyle, and has paid my way through college)
What do I do with my life?
So many choices right now, and they feel so final, difficulty sleeping for the past few nights.
Thank you for all your thoughts ahead of time!
Life is kinda funny.
There are going to be times when you look back at this decision and are convinced you made the wrong one. But eventually you’re going to find your path through life and realize everything about your life that you love is a consequence of that decision and even if there were bumps along the way you’re glad you picked the path you did.
That’s regardless of which path you choose. So there’s not a bad choice here. What interests you the most? What’s your passion? If it’s not career related, go with the SWE to start living your life in your terms. If your passion drives you on to professional or academic excellence do another option. Or pick on some other basis because it’ll work out one way or the other and almost certainly in ways you don’t intend today.
Good luck!